One shoe fits all.

Does once shoe fit all? - Never for motherhood!

I like to borrow principles and great ideas from mothers! But one thing I have also learnt is that, we are all different, different personalities, different callings, different -different. While some things are ground rules, for example discipline for children, we must always remember that we have been called to raise a Godly generation and only the creator has the manuscript for your house and the way your life should be. 

I am choleric, I work with goals. Like baby 1, 2, 3….okay now what? I look for a new goal..I start an adventure in cooking. I am all mad about cooking now, and trying new stuff in my house…but even my husband knows better, once I feel like I have mastered that area…I will move on  to a new exiting thing…may be sawing…ha! Who knows?  Some of us are sanguines'….it must be fun all the way, others are melancholic, everything must be where it ought to be! And phlegmatic, as long as there is peace in my life….I am good to go Halleluyah!

So a few lessons that I have learnt

Know what you want and see if it works for you.

Define your ideal. Some of the things that we think are ideal are only ideal because someone else has defined them for us as ideal. I was sharing with some couples yesterday who were thinking our current life, home set up is not the ideal, so who defines the ideal? For me the bible defines the ideal. And for any couple, if love and respect is upheld, that is the ideal, how you work around the roles and responsibilities squarely depends on your context.   God will judge you on the two principles. Husbands love your wives and wives respect your husbands. I am not sure God is interested in who is cooking; who is washing the kids, the society might want to dictate this to us. So define your ideal and please don't judge other Mums using your ideal. 

Define your minimums 

What are your minimums as a mother in bringing up your children? Then, don’t worry much after that. I like to personally bath my children, and will do that regardless of how much it may cost me. I like to feed them too. So for me, those and others are like minimums. But for someone else, they may not be. So define your minimums and stick to them, and please do them because they are right in your eyes, not because they make you feel good, or make others feel good about you!

Know your context

Know your home, know – understand it fully. Are you able to be home early? Good. Are you home late? Good, if truly you cannot do anything about it. Are you on night shift, very good? Really, all I want to say here is that not all homes are same. I wish I was a lecturer, and then I could plan my time around my home-but I cannot.  I get home by 5:30 latest, so we have dinner at 6:30pm, but other mums gets home at 8pm, so the diner has to be at 9pm….our context are different. Some of us need two househelps, some of us; one will do well with one. Okay really, JUST STOP COMPARING your home with another. If you can learn a few things that can work for you and they are of benefit good, if not. Keep moving on to your destiny and appreciate your context to bits! God knows it and will help you work round it.

Ask God for wisdom

Rely on your heavenly Daddy for each an every day. We need HIM-Desperately to guide us as mothers. He has the manuscript  for your life. He knows what works for you and what does not. Pray, seek him. With God you can never go wrong!  

And I dare say! BEFORE YOU TRY ANY OF THE ABOVE! SEEK HIM!

So what have you learnt Mums? Lets share.